Friday 25 February 2011

"Sectarian?"



(Below is a piece i wrote for www.kore.uk.com)
   I guess I am now brave enough to admit that I was never pro this revolution. I thought it was unfair to compare ourselves to Tunisia, no two revolutions are the same. Besides, their education rate is the same as ours, multiplied! They are a small country of 10 million, we are 80 million. How will we organise ourselves? How will we make our demands heard? Besides we are a nation that has learned submission before even learning to walk, how will ALL of us walk to our freedom?

Before January 25th, if you had taken a walk down any street in Cairo, you would have seen herds of people with the same expression, disappointment, manifested in many forms.  From the angry faces of the two cab drivers fighting, to the mother yelling at her child to not let go of her hand, each had the same body posture, they walked with their heads down, shoulders dropped and everyone looked like they had just lost a battle. How could you motivate all of these people that have been drenched in disinterest their whole lives to go down and march for their freedom?

Then January 25th came, and what started out as a march initiated by a Facebook group and organized by Twitter enthusiasts, ended up being a march of millions. I, like everyone else became intrigued, so I went down to Tahrir square, and I was in tears.

The first time I went was on Tuesday, the 25th, I couldn’t get in because it was too crowded. Then I went again on the 28th, ‘bloody Friday’. I met a group of friends in a coffee shop next to Mostapha Mahmood mosque and we waited for people to finish their Friday prayers so that we could start the march to Tahrir Square. As we waited, we saw one police truck after the other standing in front of the Mosque, then a friend of mine told me “..there was a rumor last night that Christians will form a cordon around every mosque to allow people to pray in peace”. We all smiled, some of us even teared up, then the rest is history.

We marched that day. I will not go through the horror of that day, but would rather share with you the incredible unity and how organised that march was. People were walking around distributing tear gas masks, then many others followed them with vinegar bottles spraying its contents on our masks to minimize the gas’ effects.  The highlight of those was a girl who used a Victoria’s Secret plastic perfume bottle filled with vinegar. Then when the tear gas bombs erupted, many were walking around screaming “don’t rub your eyes with your hands”, followed by several others carrying tissue rolls to help us dry the tears coming off our eyes, followed by others with Pepsi cans to spray on our faces to help minimize the gas effects. At some point, people would shift positions with those in the first line because it is their turn now ‘to take the first blow of gas bombs’. As for the girls, the men were heavily surveying them, every time the march would start running, the men would surround us, and guide us to the safest side of the march for protection.

This attitude is what embarrassed me from having this previous anti revolution mentality. I was too busy focusing on how defeated we have always been that I forgot how caring and peaceful we, the Egyptians, have always been. You would want these beautiful people to win because they deserved it, it made you feel that it is not just a fight for freedom, but rather a fight to flourish the good heart that everyone has in this country, and was screaming to prove its existence. It was a wake up call to a human side in us that we never thought was that big. As for the love of Egypt, I wish I could share it with you, but my emotional sentiments will override my writing capabilities and this article will never be concluded!

When the Alexandria bombings of Christians happened on the 1st of January 2011, we were all dumbfounded. We all watched the news and couldn’t believe this was happening in our country. We never realised that there is such a thing as ‘Christian’ and ‘Muslim’ until this bombing happened. We started looking up the word ‘sectarian’ in the dictionary because we honestly had no clue what it meant. Everyone was terrified that it would split us up, because all of a sudden we became accused of an issue that we never understood because it simply never existed in our heads, and this is coming from me: a Muslim who went to a Christian school for ten years. None of us foresaw these bombings, if the news here had announced that the Loch Ness monster has been found and has been hiding all this time in the Nile river, people would have believed it more than the Alex bombings. So when the Coptic Christmas came up on January the 7th, several Muslims decided to go to church, some attended the ceremonies and some stood outside to protect the Christians inside.



And when the January 25th revolution happened, it did confirm to us that these sectarian issues have nothing to do with us, because by the time I took that picture and I shared it on Twitter, I thought I was simply sharing a nice sight, as this was perhaps the tenth time Egyptians had seen Christians and Muslims protecting each other during their prayers. I never expected it to be such a worldwide sensation as it was
communicating a gesture that we were all used to seeing here. Funnily enough, my Egyptian friends on Facebook didn’t share it because they never felt it was newsworthy.

You may choose to believe me or not, I am of no profession to preach about what is and what is not Sectarian in my country. I am simply one of the 80 million people who loves their country, who believes in the good in it, in the kindness of its people, in their immense ability to believe, to build and to smile for a better tomorrow. And that it is an amazing privilege to be Egyptian, and we are all grateful for January the 25th for re-igniting this pride in all of us.


(Post Written by Nevine Zaki Yfrog Photo by Nevine Zaki: Nevine Zaki is a freelance writer and copywriter from Cairo, Egypt.  She’s an Egyptian Muslim, social media enthusiast and avid tweeter whose tweets and Yfrog photos gained a global following during the marches and protests at Tahrir Square, Cairo following the ‘January 25th revolution’.
Nevine is best known outside of Egypt for her photo of ‘Christians protecting Muslims during their prayers’ which immediately went viral with over a third of a million Yfrog views and almost 100 thousand retweets and Facebook likes within a month of being uploaded, not to mention its international use by mainstream media outlets.)

(The original piece can be found on http://worththeask.com/2011/02/sectarian/)

Monday 17 January 2011

itsy bitsy teeny weeny..

Why is everyone depressed these days?

Everyone is 'surviving' not 'living', you see people posting motivational quotes like: "go to sleep with one thought, tomorrow will be a better day", or outcries to help themselves and yourself "There is so much life running through my veins going to waste" and the plain sad ones: "this country is hopeless, we have reached a dead end"

When we meet each other, we exchange complaints, when you catch up with an old friend, you discover that none of your news is happy: X & Y got divorced, Z moved out of Egypt, I am quitting my job... etc. And those who have good news, they stopped sharing it, because they believe that they will instantly get jinxed.

We usually get caught up in our misery because of three main issues: financial problems, work problems or the biggest devil of all: relationship problems.

More and more people are resorting to self help books, meditation classes or splurging on overpriced massages. Everyone needs a pick me up drink, and the night cap has turned into an afternoon cap and for some: a morning cap.

And the worse of it all: Every day, we really try to make things better, we work very hard on looking our best: we work out religiously, we stick to our daily quota of 500 calories a day and we are the first to show up at the Beymen sale every season. We also work very hard to make the money that will sustain us: overtime turns into suicidal time and we endure those evil bosses' whims and attitudes. We go out to meet new people: be it make new friends, lovers, boyfriends and of course (drum roll.. erm.. smash) husbands and wives...

We fail, then we try again, then we fail, then we pick ourselves up, absorb the lesson and try to apply all the above with a fresh new perspective.
Whether we then fail or succeed, it doesnt matter...

Because everyone is... MISERABLE!

Everyone is nursing a heartbreak and wondering 'why does this always happen to me?' well if you are dealing with people that are miserable, this is because they cant make themselves happy, so how can they make you happy? thats a huge load, climbing mount Everest is a feather compared to this.
And whats left is...yup... Miserable people!

Well.. ok.. enough sad rhetorics.. here is a more useful question..

What is happiness?


Well we can cover all the previous literature of 'happiness is .. whats inside/ in the journey/ staying calm amidst the storm/ bla bla/etc etc..
This is a multiple answer question, with many optional answers that keep adding up as you grow up..

My take on happiness is much simpler: it is in the little things.

The genius Brigitte Bardot once said : "You cant wake up saying 'I am happy' as if you are saying 'I am blonde'" she was right, its not a wig or a trip to the hairdresser that makes it.
Its the small things you get in the process, if we take the blonde example: you decide to be a blonde, you go down, get in the car, go to the hairdresser, brave the traffic, finally reach your destination, you find that the street is beyond crowded, cars are parked in two to three lanes and then suddenly out of the blue, right in front of the hairdresser's main entrance: a car pulls out of its parking space and ta da! your parking future for the next 2 hours has been secured!
THESE are the little things: going to the supermarket and finding that juice brand you used to gorge on when you were a child, or finding 50 pounds in the pocket of your winter coat, or if  a child passes in front of you and waves at you for no reason.

If you start focusing on the little things from the instant you wake up till the last second before you close your eyes to sleep, i DARE you that you will find at least ten little things everyday.
I am sure that by now, you are going through your day in your head and trying to remember what 'little things did i encounter today'?

And if you are not, then you must probably be thinking how lame I am to suggest that these little things deserve more space in your head than the promotion that they robbed you of, or that loan that you have to pay by the end of the month, or that girl who cheated on you.
Well, you know what: "problems are in your head" or so said Maharishi (google him). These are your problems and you feel like you owe it to them and yourself to honor them and be miserable all the time, its embarrassing to be walking around with a smile when you have these problems with you.

Says who? Seriously.. says who? 

You have been using that same formula your whole life to deal with problems, yet they keep coming back, and they feed on you somehow because they always come back faster and stronger.

Happiness is a state of mind, it is what you choose to feed inside that little head of yours. So no matter what you have right now, good or bad, it WILL go away. what you will always have is: your-state-of-mind. So..

Start focusing on the little things, open up your phone and look for those lame joke forwards, go on Youtube and type 'funny' . Find the happy people, they still exist, you have just been miserable for too long that you stopped attracting them. Call that dude, go see a lame Ben Stiller film. Go out, but if you decide to hang out by the bar, then start throwing ice cubes at people (though don't say i told you to do so when you get caught!)

I have been trying in the past paragraph to create your 'little things' for you. Now imagine if you focused a bit on the many many many (i wont stop) little things you encounter in your daily life?

Its a disease that you will happily contract, and you will start being one of those 'happy people' with their  own little treasure of 'little things'..

So you have two choices now: you can read this and totally forget about it, which means that subconsciously you will find yourself complaining (about anything) in the next two hours..

or you can just.. smile! try not to analyze this too much and apply that 'refresh' button to your life..

As a treat, I will make you cheat a little on the little things quest, and give you this little gem of a website:
http://1000awesomethings.com/page/2/